There are times when you would feel like sinking yourself into the dungeons of darkness with no hope to move on anymore. This grief-stricken condition is not uncommon to the individuals of great loss. The death of our loved ones, severing of intimate relationships, divorce and massive losses seem to be unbearable at times, but one must know that the grief is only a transient phase of our life as much as the good ones are.
The key to the victory over these mood swings aroused by the deeply buried tragedies lies in understanding the difference between a balanced, natural grieving process and an unbalanced one which is quite often a result of severe negative impact upon our physiological front which attaches itself to the painful portion of that domain. That which comes in a natural way will fade away with the running pace of time, unlike the ones which remain constant regardless of our persistent efforts to get rid of them. Now the question may come to the forefront of why do they attach to our mental grounds instead of passing away? It is quite simple, we give them the breeding ground of attention. Attention is the only pre-requisite for the mental tribulations coming to the surface over and over again. When we give attention to certain untoward portions of our life, it amplifies the dropping situation to a greater extent than ever before.
There is a way out, always there is to the ones seeking with greater efficiency and the fervor like in the case of a man under the water gasping for air to breathe life once again. Irrespective of your trials to overcome the limitations of letting go, one should not fall into the pit of despair. Try to first understand how these emotions overwhelm your heart. With the force of energy that you feed warily through your attention. Gather your will and try to divert the direction of that energy to the uplift men of your thoughts and emotions. It requires a lot of will, which is initially not possible to be derived but subsequent efforts will pull it off in no time. Believe me, a man has got every potential to rise above the finitude of mental limitations only and only if he desires earnestly and positively.
Another way to cope up with the hammering strikes of grieving moments is to accept everything as a subtle plan of that higher power which keeps everything in their right place at the right time. Believing in his arrangements to be utterly perfect will also give you a push to rise above and above until you find yourself free from this mortal combat of tug and war. But the willingness behind the surrender must be absolutely genuine.
So better not pay attention to the events that went past you as a phenomenon of the past, instead, cling onto the primal support of present which is a great present indeed to the ones knowing it.